It’s Halloween and my daughters have spent the last 6 weeks talking about what to be for the holiday. I have smiled in amusement as they’ve gone from a fairy princess to various superheroes to whatever character they just saw on TV.
Thank God I don’t have to dress up. I’ll help the kids plan their costumes, make them if necessary and get them ready. The Husband and I take turns with the holiday duties; one takes the kids out trick or treating while the other stays home to hand out candy. Neither of us dresses the part, although I may wear orange & black that day.
Every year, though, I think about maybe dressing up. There are two concerns here. One, that I would choose what I think is the perfect alter ego and everyone else would think it’s a great reflection of my personality (like Lucy in “It’s The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown”). Or that people wouldn’t get it, which has happened before. So traditionally I don’t put a lot of thought in it. Except this year, after the ritual consideration and eventual rejection of dressing up, I came to consider the scariest possibility ever: What if I were to dress up as the person I want to be, as The Someone Closest To My Highest Potential?
AAAAAAAGGGGGGGHHHHHHH! (This coming from someone who works in the business of helping others move toward their highest potential).
So really, why are we so afraid to become our best selves?
I posed this question to the Job Seekers Group a few weeks ago. The first answer was, “Well it’s a lot more comfortable to be with devil you know than the devil you don’t.” OK, that’s got a nugget of truth to it that we can talk about another day. “I’m just too lazy to make the effort.” Hmm, I believe “lazy” is a convenient label we put on our procrastination so we don’t have to look further; it’s easier to believe we’re “lazy” or “stupid” than to look more deeply. “I don’t know who I want to be when I grow up.” Another hmmmm. Chances are you’re confused because you’re afraid to say it out loud, let alone take action, rather than because you’ve got so many great options you don’t know where to start.
What would happen if, for one evening, you acted as if you were (already) your higher self? If you were living the life you desire for yourself? What does that look like? What does your body feel like? Who surrounds you? What kind of work do you do? What to you do for fun? What do you do throughout the day and how do you do it?
It’s an intriguing possibility, and I for one will commit this Halloween evening to acting as if I am the scariest person I know: my highest self. No one else has to get it, no one else has to approve or disapprove. I’ll know. Will you join me?